When you are in trouble it’s like putting your face really close to a book. Everything seems too big and blurred, you lose perspective.
At such times, someone else’s perspective can help. And it can be a friend or even yourself. As a friend recently advised me: imagine that you were your own best friend. What if you saw your friend struggling like this, what advice would you give as a well-wisher? Would you tell them to continue or quit or change their way of working?
Mostly, you would tell them that you love them and remind them of their strengths, something that we rarely do with ourselves. The first thing to go in a crisis is our love for ourselves, a pat on the back for having the courage to face life and its challenges.